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“Suitcase Pimps” in the Adult Industry: an informational essay

Lynsey G | August 26, 2014 | 9:59 pm

I’ve been thinking about what happened to Christy Mack, particularly with regard to what obviously turned into a toxic relationship with her ex-boyfriend/”suitcase pimp,” War Machine. I never met Christy Mack or War Machine, so I can’t speak personally about the nature of their relationship. However, some observations Aurora Snow made in her Daily Beast article about it got me pondering the little-known and rarely discussed phenomenon of the “suitcase pimp” in the mainstream adult industry.

First of all, please understand that I am NOT in any way suggesting that a suitcase pimp is synonymous with violence or abuse. I’m sure that there are as many variations on the relationship between adult star and suitcase pimp as there are individual relationships. But I want to just talk about how this all works, and how this might have happened, for those of you who don’t know about “suitcase pimps.”

Imagine for a moment that you are an actress in mainstream pornographic films. That you make most or all of your living on your adult film work. It’s a demanding job. As often as possible, you book continue →

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Less-Serious Links and Videos for Your Nude Weekend Coffee Sipping. Or Whatever.

Lynsey G | August 23, 2014 | 12:30 pm

Well this week’s return to the world has been pretty tough on me, so here are some awesome, bizarre, ultra-bizarre, and heh-worthy links and videos for you to enjoy and feel less-serious about as you sip coffee in the nude on your fire escape this weekend.

I mean. That’s what you do on weekends, right? It’s what I do on weekends…


1) Awesome: So the documentary about that James Franco produced (called Kink)? Looks freaking amazing. I’m not a big fan of The Franco, mostly because I’m sick of him making me look bad for not doing All The Things All The Time, but I can get behind this. Mega behind it. With a whip.

2) Bizarre: This happened a while ago, but I just heard about it: a Japanese artist who has allegedly been selling detailed plans for making 3D-printed renditions of her vulva to her fans was arrested on obscenity charges. continue →

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Christy Mack: Thoughts And Upsetness and Bravery

Lynsey G | August 22, 2014 | 10:32 pm

Christy Mack before the attack

Another thing I learned about when I returned from my vacation in the wilderness? Christy Mack was beaten nearly to death by her ex-boyfriend, War Machine. The MMA fighter found his adult star ex-girlfriend with another man at her own home when he arrived unannounced and unexpected in the middle of the night, and left her with 18 broken bones, stab wounds, numerous lost teeth, an injured liver, and many, many bruises after forcing her to undress and shower, threatening (but thankfully finding himself unable) to rape her, and cutting off her hair.

He has since been apprehended and is in police custody. Thank goodness.

And the news cycles on, with trails of comments blaming Mack for the assault in its wake.

I can’t even articulate my feelings of sorrow for her and outrage about what people have said about her. I’m so tired of it. So bone weary from hearing women getting blamed for being victimized in this world continue →

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I’m Back! And the World is a Mess!

Lynsey G | August 21, 2014 | 1:03 am

My feels when I reconnected with the world.

So I went to Montana for ten days. It was amazing. I had a blast. And my tablet screen broke so I couldn’t use it at all, and I had zero cell reception and only the spottiest WiFi capabilities, so I was pretty much incommunicado the entire time. I didn’t even realize taht there were places in the continental U.S. that remote at this point, but there are! And that is Not a Bad Thing! I’m glad I was able to unplug for a while–I definitely needed it.

But now I’m back, and WOW, world, did you ever wind up to punch me square in the face when I stepped off that plane at JFK. For the love of Jiminy Cricket. Holy crap.

First of all, Ferguson. What. Is. Going. On. In this country?!?! I really can’t even begin continue →

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Lynsey G | August 6, 2014 | 6:00 pm

I’m off for a two-week-ish vacation in the Wild West, y’all! I wish I’d had time to prep some blog posts for while I’m gone, but alas, there is never enough time for all the things I want to do. However, while I’m on vacation, hopefully I’ll have some brilliant insights I can blog about when I return.

For now, leave me some love while I’m away and I’ll see you when I get back!

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Consent, Mistakes, and Ripples: reflections on a mess

Lynsey G | August 4, 2014 | 11:21 pm

It’s crazy how the universe works sometimes. I’ve been talking a lot recently, in my personal life, about how things that have happened in the past have the power to fuck things up in the present. Experience from my past, and the feelings they bring up even years later, cause ripples in my life, both in myself and in the people around me. Sometimes a small event that triggers me becomes a huge milestone moment in my life when I don’t want it to, because the ripples can rock into the brains and feelings of other people and cause them to relive their trauma, or can bring up major issues that have not been confronted, and so on. What I mean to say is, something that happened in the past, that seems to be dead and buried, can come back and bite you, whether it was your fault or not, whether you want it to bite you (or anybody else) or not. The past is the foundation of the present, and sometimes it’s a moldy nasty awful foundation we wish we could demolish. But we can’t. Or we’d fall, too.

This is all a roundabout way of getting to the topic at hand: continue →

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Another Pointless Pondering: the hissing inhale thing

Lynsey G | July 30, 2014 | 12:00 pm

I think she is making that noise at this very moment.

The post I wrote last week about how I generally dislike watching people exchange spit in adult films got me thinking. There are a bunch of things I see in the pr0nz that I’m not a big fan of, personally, and I’m interested in getting feedback to see what other people have to say about them. Not that anybody ever comments on blog posts about pornography, but… it’s worth a try.

Anyway, here’s another thing I find not-so-sexy in my porn viewing: that particular noise that some performers make, in which they suck in breath through their teeth. It makes this sharp hissing noise when they inhale. And it irritates and distracts me. continue →

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Luna Luna: She’s Just Not That Into It (Having Sex)

Lynsey G | July 28, 2014 | 4:57 pm

A new article of mine was published over the weekend at Luna Luna! This one is an advice column to a young man named James, who wonders how to get his l0w-libidoed girlfriend to be more interested in sex. I wish him the best, of course, because it’s my fondest wish for everyone to have more great sex in their lives, but I also cautioned him against trying to “convince” her, and to try listening instead.

A sample:

‘The best you can do for her, continue →

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Come See Me at the 4th Annual New York City Poetry Festival

Lynsey G | July 23, 2014 | 5:44 pm
That's me at last year's festival!

That’s me at last year’s festival!

It’s that time of year again! What time of year? you may be asking. The time when we take off our shoes and lay around on the grass? The time when we buy food-truck morsels and have a picnic? The time when we take a free ferry to a free poetry festival and enjoy the summer on Governor’s Island?

Yes. All that. This weekend is the 4th annual New York City Poetry Festival on Governor’s Island in New York City! It’s free, it’s fun, and it’s… something else that starts with f… Fabulous! Yes. Fabulous.

This year’s festival has the added bonus of hearing me read some of my new poetry, if you’re interested! I don’t know if you know this, but I’ve been working on a book of poetry for the past nine-months-ish, and it’s almost ready to finish gestating. So I’m giving it an ultrasound with the Poetry Brothel on the White Horse Stage at 2:10 on Saturday, July 26th, and you all are welcome to come listen!

I’ll also be offering private readings for a modest fee in the Poetry Brothel’s house on the island from 3:00 – 5:00 this Saturday. Come on in! It’ll be dark, moody, and probably soaked in wine.

AND THERE’S MORE! Luna Luna Magazine will have several poets of their own reading on the Chumely’s Stage on Saturday at 1:20 p.m.! On Sunday, Patasola Press will have a reading at 1:00 on the Algonquin Stage! Hyacinth Girl Press will be on at 4:00 on the White Horse Stage! And so much more. C’mon out! Say hi!

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Pointless Pondering on a Sick Day: The Spit Thing

Lynsey G | July 21, 2014 | 5:22 pm
That's me, pondering important issues on my sick day.

That’s me, pondering important issues on my sick day.

Soooo here’s an admission. I’m out sick today and I suddenly started thinking about the issue of spit being exchanged in “adult films.” And I realized I don’t really dig it when people drip spit into each other’s mouths, or spit on each other’s faces or anywhere else. I see it pretty often, and it kind of grosses me out. continue →

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